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Question 1: My parents don’t want me to go out until midnight and they don’t let me have a boyfriend. How can I confince them I can handle those things? – Kim
Vanessa: Your parents wish you all the best, but that’s not going to help you right now. You need to WIN their confidence! When they tell you to be home at 23:00, you’ll be there at 23:00! When you go a little longer, it’s fun for you, but your parents lose their confidence and about boyfriends: Bring a GOOD boy back to your home! You can show your parents you like good guys! Maybe you can go on a dubble date with your BFF, maybe that’s ok!

Question 2: I heard from a friend that another good friend gossips about me. Do I have to tell her that I know? – Charlotte


Vanessa: I had exacly the same problem. You can feel very sad when something like that happends. Are you REALLY sure that she did that? Ask her why, and give her a chance to explain. Maybe she said something about your boyfriend and not about you! And maybe she’s jealous. But friends without any reasons to gossip, aren’t worth your friendship!

Question 3: I’m very shy when It comes to boys. How did you talked to a boy you liked when you were single? -Laura
Vanessa: When you’re going out, it works to show that you’re having alot of fun. Don’t focus too much on a guy you like but laugh and dance with your friends. He’ll notice you! Do you like a boy you already know, you can ask him to help you with something!

Question 4: When my boyfriend talks to other girls, I get really jealous. How can I get rid of that? – Merel
Vanessa: Everybody can be jealous, and thats not a bad thing! It shows you care about eachother! But if youre claiming him too much and watching him everywhere he goes, he gets annoyed. Show him you trust him, and he’ll see that you’re the only one he wants to be with and, when YOU are talking to a boy, is there any reason to get jealous? No!

Question 5: My friends call me a dork, because I always fall and trip over things. It makes me feel insicure. What can I do? – Jacqueline
Vanessa: You have to laugh about yourself! I’m a dork too. In Bandslam I’m falling into a planter, and they let it in the movie because they found it really funny. I didnt, but now I can laugh about that too! They even put it in the movietrailer!

A question from CosmoGirl: Where do you go to get advice?
Vanessa: When I have a problem, I talk to Zac. He’s a GREAT listener but sometimes, girls are better in giving advise, because they understand what girls can go through. Boys don’t understand why you’re sad about something another person said about you, or a bad hairday and I can always talk with my parents when I’m sad. That helps too! I’m very close with my family.